Monday 16 June 2008

Everyone gets a chance?

Starting to really question that motto of mine ... just today, I got asked out by a guy who reminded me of my ex very much (not a good sign to begin with) and with accordance to my motto, I said yes ... well, it wasn't just as straightforward as that, but still ... picture if you will:

its just after my choir practice and I'm on my way home ... I get on the bus, walk all the way to the back and sit on the very last chair on the bus, just behind some guy ... right away, that guy starts turning around and looking at me, till in the end, he turns all the way around and asks me if I know what the time is ... after I tell him what the time is, he starts to make conversation ... stuff like what do u do, where do u live and so on and so on ... since I already had to take out my earphones to tell him the time, I simply reply his questions ... and then, just as casually as everything up to that, he asks me if I have time to go for a drink ... I say no because it's already late (thank God I'm not that crazy ... yet) ... he then asks for my phone number, so we could find a time more convenient for the both of us ... and this is what it all comes down to ... to give or not to give, that is now the question ...
so ... in the spirit of my motto, I, of course, give him my number ... I then proceed to try and take a compliment or two graciously, we say bye and I get off the bus ...
(the abbreviated version)

of course, being a woman, I have to go through every detail in my mind and analyse it all ... I'm not gonna do that here, cause let's face it, that would be an unending post :) so just a few of the major thoughts ...

he spoke with an accent, so I'm guessing he's from "south of the border" (though not according to his name, which sounds Italian) - just like my ex ...
he has the courage to ask out girls (he likes?) without making a big deal out of it - a very good trait, missing in almost all Slovene guys (at least according to my experience) ...
he's quite the opposite of guys I'm usually attracted to (to be a complete opposite, he'd have to be blond ;)) - not a good thing ...
not to mention the fact that I felt like he had some hidden agenda - though, granted, that could only be a product of my own imagination and insecurities :D

still way more to go on with, but don't wanna go into details, plus, don't wanna unveil his identity completely (like with his name and looks and so on) ... actually just got a call from him few minutes ago to confirm that it is my number ... well, we'll see about all this ... but like I said, I have my doubts ... and the few of you that already know the story about my ex "south of the border" boyfriend probably understand why any resemblances with J* are not really desirable traits ... and for the ones that don't know the story, just trust me on this one ... besides ... the fact that I hadn't written this guy off just cause of my past should tell you something ... I really don't wanna judge people according to first impressions ... or past experiences ...
but I am fed up with people thinking that I'm easy or that I'm not that smart ... I would have to be pretty smitten to just sit back and let things evolve even when I know it makes no sense ... though, on the other hand, getting asked out simply cause of a first impression is always good for the ego ;)

anyway .... in the end, we'll see if it turns out to be "everyone gets a chance" or "teja doesn't know how to learn from her own mistakes" :)


p.s. with a track record like this, I might just prove my friends right in the end and never have a Slovene boyfriend again (applies only to the recent years)

3 comments:

ursa said...

fajn napisan post (sploh so mi všeč tvoji komentarji v oklepajih) ... sporoči, kako se bo odvijal ;)
se pa strinjam, da znjao slabe izkušnje v preteklosti zelo vplivat na novejše priložnosti.

tejnula said...

zaenkrat se odvija zelo "zanimivo", in to presenetljivo celo na dober način :D but of course, I'll keep you posted ... in a while anyway ;)

Lisa Johnson said...

Do you have a picture of this new guy? How are you doing? What are you up to? I miss Slovenija SO MUCH!